Facebook Trivia: "it's complicated"

Prica se da je ranije Facebook bio nesto poput virtuelnog studentskog doma.
Onoga dana kada je Mark Zuckerberg resio da postavi Friend Feed aplikaciju, i kada su svi shvatili da umesto da stalno "ulaze u sobe" svojih prijatelja, odnosno posecuju licne stranice na ovoj mrezi, imaju NA TACNI sve te lepe trivije poput ko se napio i gde je zavrsio (usput dokumentovane raspad fotografijama), pojavio se talas protesta. Glasnog, u pocetku.
Cak su se neki i iskljucili sa Facebook-a jer nisu hteli da imaju "novog Velikog Brata".

A onda su shvatili, cak i oni koji su bili ubedjeni da im ovakve informacije nisu potrebne, navukli su se na citanje vrlo cesto i besmislenih stvari (spava mi se, gladan, piski mi se...). Vecima onih koji ovo me mogu da shvate i ne vide potrebu da citaju i postuju sta im se desava iz minuta u minut, prema clanku u NY TIMES-u, odavno je presla tridesetu. Brave New World of Digital Intimacy
(ovaj tekst mi je poslao prijatelj ciji je prijateljev prijatelj ovo zapravo napisao i mozete se pouzdati u njega, covek je stvarno aktivan u onlajn drustvenim medijima i zna o cemu prica. Prijatelj koji je poslao je moje prijateljice prijatelj a nju sam imala srece da upoznam preko devojke drugog jednog prijatelja...complicated? Zapravo ne, osim gramaticki mozda ;-)

U moru mikroblogerskih recenica, nadje se i ponesto korisno "Sta ce ti zanosni kukovi ako ne umes da pleses". Ili cela biografija Sare Palin. Ili zasto McCain radi ovo ili ono, ko je smesten u Hiltonu u Bugarskoj, ko je krenuo da vezba, ko ne moze da dobije vizu, koga su angazovali za AIESEC treninge...Sve u svemu, korisna stvar ako su ljudi oko vas aktivni i rolaju projekte. A posle kad se sretnete, imate i teme za razgovor iz rukava jer znate na cemu rade. Vrlo cool!

Sto se "relationship status update" feature-a tice, veza koja se okarakterishe kao "Facebook official" ima itekakav long tail i tu treba biti pazljiv. Sociolozi to zovu "ambient awareness" i tumace kao onlajn nacin za "citanje govora tela". Istu svrhu ima i Twitter - sve te male "mikroblogerske" recenice koje pustamo u etar govore nesto o nama. A Facebook se mozda najozbiljnije shvata. I cini se da je gori od Velikog Brata :))

Bilo skoro u BC biltenu simpa upozorenje: poslodavci ponekada regrutuju svet upravo preko Facebook-a. Odnosno, u nameri da saznaju vise o kandidatu nije im tesko da odu na Facebook profil.
Pitanje je koliko bi sve to bilo zanimljivo kada bismo zaista pisali samo one stvari za koje ni nase mame ne bi marile kada bi procitale.

Sve u svemu, moja skorasnja epizoda je bila ponesto cudna. Dugo sam razmisljala o svom emotivnom statusu i zakljucila da je, sa koje god strane da se pogleda, sve nekako - komplikovano. I stavila sam u relationship status update "its complicated". Prosto zato sto je to istina, i da ne duzim previse, nije bas normalno - cak ni sa stanovista moje mame.

Istog dana dobila sam PP (private post) sa pitanjem "ko je taj srecnik?" :)
(da li to znaci da je kad si single ipak sve jednostavnije...:)

Vratila sam status na "single" cisto da bih ustedela vreme objasnjavajuci da je "komplikovano" blize istini nego bilo koja "1 - 0" opcija. A onda je pocelo...Vrlo brzo su ljudi sa moje friend liste povezali prethodne statuse (u kojima je pisalo da trazim nekoga po MySpace) i predlozili da ga biju. Drugi su me pitali da li ja to "obaram Ginisov rekord" u trajanju veze (1 dan), treci su se prisetili svojih starih blog postova na kojima su imali slicnu drustvenu dramu...

Inace, smatra se jos da Facebook ima udela u opstecovecanskoj kvoti postenja i casti. Onaj ko izbegava da u svoj status na FB stavi da je u vezi sa nekim definitivno ima razloge poput "hocu da budem slobodan / slobodna da jurim i druge". Americki (a koji bi drugi...) psiholozi savetuju da ljude koji odbiju da svoju vezu ozvanice na Facebooku treba smatrati nezrelima i ostaviti.
Drugo to zovu kulturom navlacenja ("hookup culture") koja je proizvod novog morala na webu.


Zar nije sve to "complicated"?

Evo liste premisa koje funkcionisu medju geek-ovima:

1. Ako te nema na Google-u kao da ni ne postojis (brzo kreirajte profile! Plaxo Pulse je OK igracka za prve korake)
2. Ako tvoja veza nije izlistana na Facebooku onda kao da i nisi u vezi (menjaj partnera ;))
3. Ako ne blogujes, onda si nevidljiv??!
4. Ako te ne zanima internet onda si Bushman :lol:
5. Ako ne znas engleski...(idi na Havaje :)
6. "Ambient updates" su bolje jer zahtevaju manje paznje od email-a



Nastavite listu....;p

Addiction...

Novinarstvo je, to sam toliko vec puta rekla da verujem da nije tajna, poziv koji te uzme celog! Daje puno, jedan odlican framework za sve sto hoces da radis u zivotu - citanje, pisanje, zapitkivanje...kokteli, kolaci, lepi magazini, kafica u sred dana....pa putovanja, upoznavanje novih ljudi i obicaja (oh, plus uvid njihovu stampu!), novi horizonti, saznanja i dozivljaji.

Veoma je tesko nanizati dane koji lice jedni na druge.


Nikada mi se nije dogodilo da krenem na vikend, ili na put, bez svescice, i aparata za snimanje glasa i slika. Ne mogu ni da zamislim situaciju da ne pisem i ne zapitkujem! Kako to bwe ljudi....odu kuci i ne misle na posao. Ja se svoje slobodno vreme provodim s novinama ...i novinarima :-))
I jay-cees, naravno.

E sad...gde je tu balans?!

Odavno ja govorim, novinarstvo je POROK.

Love in Transition

Gde je vaš udeo u bruto nacionalnoj sreći?
Čitam ovaj sjajan tekst ex-glodura Politike, i sve se mislim...pa ko od nas ima dovoljno ljubavi u svom životu?
Kaže MM, nema u nas još sistema ali barem je glavni krug ludila je iza nas. U ovaj deo sveta se, čini mu se, vratio se razum.
Sve razumem! I sama tako razmišljam, kao drug-član biblioteke: neka našoj Srbiji bude dobro, pa će i meni :-))
Jedino...heh, jedino što se bruto nacionalna ljubav uvećava tako što se dižu, holistički, pojedinačni neto emotivni računi!
Zato...
Blago proaktivnima jer njihovo je...sve!

Danas se na forumu jedan žalio, kaže čovek:
"Imam sve. Sve. Fali mi zagrljaj"

Prevodim tekst, vredi.
FYI!


Love in Age of Transition

Gathering the Government that already last for too long, fight for Kosovo status, mistery of money taken away to Cyprus, bachelor degrees that can be bought nowdays, wrestling with Haag...All the important topics and important news, aint it?
Historical boostings and daily political plots, the chronicle of transition, in which everything is in the move tending to stay away from what happened before, and to approach to what is wanted, but still uncertain and unsure...Our ever-day-life exists in that vortex, our happines and our unhappiness, our hopes, doubts, concerns...Our wishes, plans, expectations, and - our love exists in this surrounding.


How this fits in personal life?
Even if we are not interested in politics, politics is interested in us. And final criteria for every politics is the way people are living their life.
Have we properly understood that nothing is like it was before, and that most of things actually depend on us?
It is individual, not a collective enterprise. How do we fit in?
Is there enough of the most human affair for everyone of us: is there enough love in your life?

It is not a common question, and it is not usual to ask such thing: intimacy simply is not for a public debate.
But, in first place we ARE occupied with personal, and then with - universal issues.
Ambition for happines is born-given, but happines is never achieved: there is always a next step.
Happines is, also, not a happines if we don't share it with someone: a partner, children, brother or sister, boyfirend or girlfriend...with someone we care about and we believe he/she cares about us!

If we are realistic, than we should admit that the main circle of madness is behind us, in this corner of the Earth - ratio has come back!
Things are not yet as we want them to be, and as we expected them to be, but here we are: we don't do everything we can.

We are not either the best, or the most effective, as a society in order to enlarge brutto national happiness and to upgrade every single netto success.
But, frankly, we are not too far away from traumas of historical breakings. Too often around us are thrilling testimonies, stories about accidents we witnessed or, worse: were victims of.
Even if we put it aside for a moment, we still are overflowed with stories about violence, threats, conflicts, and missunderstanding.

In this type of conditioning, LOVE must be - a collateral damage.
To love and to be loved, to share, to plan, build and empower, to help someone to grow, raise and shine - is too complicated and much harder, specially if there is not enough material welness, if there is not enough jobs for everyone who seek for, if there is not enough perspective for gifted, if there is not enough stimulation for enterpreuners.
Let me put it this way: if there is no articulated system of values, or faith in personal power and abillities, if there is no collective self-confidence in strenths and capability, in tolerance and understanding: if we don't understand the world, and the world doesnt understand us.

Again, there is no perfectly ballanced society on our planet. But, most of
people we comparing with seem to have a little bit more harmony in their wants and haves, in what they expect and think is possible.

Further more: still 75 % of young Serbian people, according to press, don't leave parents' house even when are 30 years old! On the other side, westerns do appart from their parents when they are 18!
It is called a prolonged childhood, and is more and more often in Serbia: financial crisis, emotional dependency a hard job seeking process, is serving its cause.

„To get some independency and to make a family is much harder than ever...Well, f***k it, we live in hard times and in a mad society”, wrote someome on web forum once, on a topic featuring marriage and family.

„Nowdays, people run into marriage just to try if they are able to do it, not with a strong will to succeed, as it was happening before”, said other forum member.

Every day there are more and more „safe houses for victims of family violence” in Serbia. It must be an indicator that something is really wrong!
More than on other places on Earth, there is violence among all of us. Crisis of marriage as a social concept is not just our phenomenon...
But: europian record in unemployment rate which Serbia holds (!) must be recognised as really significant trend-driver!

It is not ideal time for LOVE. But, it never was. Neither it will be.
Hold on to your beliefs, and to your love, and award will come!
Every single one of us is a shift-starter for what we want to make real around self! If we are destined to keep fighting and to love costantly, then we should be more carefull when choosing for what we will strife for (or against what or whom we will fight) and - who to love.

By Milan Mišić - published in Politika, March 18th.

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There actually exist ballanced societies on our planet. Look for MERITOCRACY in Wikipedia. People ARE practicing 7 habits on other meridians! And live happily.

And...what would Stephen Covey say if he saw this?„I've seen whole cultures transformed!” (tommorow I'll bring on a blogger a full Covey's sentence, just need to find it among my paperworks on the tea-table :-)

World, hold on!

HR Knowledge Fair juče je bio fan-tas-ti-čan!
Mnogo zanimljivih i obrazovanih ljudi na istom mestu + okrugli sto na temu 7 navika.
Čini mi se da su ovakve prilike situacije za prave mini-revolucije, u mišljenju (i posledično, delanju). Pevanju i mišljenju, takođe! (šta bi rekao Svetozar Marković da je juče bio s nama ;)

Moglo se čuti da je staroj školi ekonomije KRAJ i da zahteve za kvantifikacijom i prikazivanjem svega kroz cifre i analize konačno možemo mirne duše odbaciti jer se najstručniji i najposvećeniji deo HRM planete (i ne samo HR!!!) složio da je to konačno - prevaziđeno!
U HRM je, kako je rekao keynote speaker dr Mark Lyzckx Ghisi važnije ono što se zove IMATI NOS za prave stvari.
Naravno, trendovi se prate prema parametrima, koji su takođe promenljivi u odnosu na to, naravno, šta pratiš.

Ah, kraj papirne ere doneo je i kraj svega što je old school!
Danas je sasvim u redu tzv. touch of 80's u kombinovanju odeće (nrp. i kocke i štrafte i još tri boje!).

Među arhitektama i kreativcima hit su frizure koje su odnapred kratke a otpozadi dugačke....ko još ne zna za dvokomponentne parfeme (sic!), ili one smart kremice koje hlade i greju u zavisnosti od stanja kože i temperature napolju (adaptibilan hemijski sastav, živelo uzemljenje NASA tehnologije u kozmetiku :P ). O multifunkcionalnim kapsulama za regeneraciju da i ne pričam!

Trendovi se setuju, prate, mere. Procesi znanja se podstiču i razvijaju, njima se upravlja , i to sistemski. Isto je i sa inovacijama.

Timski rad sada zahteva i lidera i katalizatora, piramidalne strukture odmuru natenane,a sa margine dolaze najznačajinije promene.

Naglasak je na ŽENAMA.
O, da.
Prirodno je tako, nama je prirodan i multitasking i networking i vizibilitet i organizacija i win-win princip,i sva treća rešenja!


Ne zaboravimno da ne treba praviti kompromise s onim čiji je značaj OGROMAN (!) iako je nemoguće kvantfikovati: Love + Ethics + Aesthetics - poruka je dekana CBA business school.

Razigrava se sve(t).

Može li Srbija doprineti?

„Srbija je trenutno najzanimljivije mesto na planeti, i ja sam zato ovde. Uvek sam želeo zanimljiv život na lepim mestima...eto zašto nisam nikada živeo u Severnoj Africi ili Pakistanu”, rekao je juče Hans E. Hageman, zamenik šefa misije ambasade Kraljevine Holandije.

Serbia - focus on exellence.


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Ps. klikom na naslov posta stiže se na današnji članak objavljen u Politici: Gde rade najsrećniji ljudi na svetu, odnosno: Miss Cybernaut featuring Google!


uz čitanje članka lepo bi išao Bob Synclair, koga ne mrzi neka downloaduje World, hold on Western Dream

vest: GROM spalio ljubavnike!

BEOGRAD, 31.oktobar 2006 - Bojan Z. (33) i Mirjana M. (36) iz Beograda povredjeni su kada ih je udario grom dok su vodili ljubav na makishkoj strani Ade Ciganlije!

Ljubavnici su stradali ispod zalosne vrbe u nedelju uvece kada je veliko nevreme zahvatilo Beograd. Kako Press saznaje, ekipa Hitne pomoci odvezla ih je sa opekotinama potpuno gole u Urgentni centar, odakle su prebaceni u Centar za opekotine u Zvechanskoj ulici!
Posle ukazane pomoci, Bojan je pusten kuci, dok je Mirjana zadrzana na lecenju.
Dezurni lekar potvrdio je da je Mirjana smestena na Odeljenje intenzivne nege, ali da joj život nije ugrožen.
- Pacijentkinja je svesna, može da jede i komunicira sa osobljem. Povrede koje je zadobila su teske, ali ocekujemo da ce se brzo oporaviti. Posete zasad nisu dozvoljene, ali za nekoliko dana rodbina i prijatelji moci ce slobodno da je obilaze - potvrdio je dezurni lekar bolnice u Zvecanskoj ulici.

Kako saznajemo od izvora bliskih istrazi, neposredno posle prijema povredjenih ljubavnika u bolnici se dogodio skandal!
- Mladji gospodin je došao u bolnicu i raspitivao se za zdravstveno stanje povredjene Mirjane M. Osoblje bolnice mu je saopstilo na kom je odeljenju i potom ga zamolilo da preuzme njenu garderobu. Medjutim, medju zenskim stvarima koje je preuzeo bili su i muski odevni predmeti. Kada su mu objasnili da stvari pripadaju njenom muzu, on je zaprepasceno rekao: "Pa, ja sam njen muz!"

Tada su morali da mu saopste da je Mirjana povredjena u trenutku dok je u prirodi vodila ljubav sa kolegom sa posla - navodi nas sagovornik.
Prema tvrdnjama dobro obavestenog izvora, muskarac je zadobio lakse povrede jer je bio u ulozi "provodnika" . Zena je obnazena lezala na travi, dok je muskarac u trenutku udara groma bio na kolenima. Ispostavilo se da je elektricitet samo prosao kroz njegovo telo, a potom udario u njegovu nagu koleginicu. Muskarac je imao vise srece i zadobio je samo lake povrede, dok je njegova partnerka izvukla deblji kraj - navodi naš sagovornik.


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Damn Love!

Belgrade, SEE Europe, Oct 31st, 2006 -
Man and woman, Bojan (33) and Mirjana (36) from Belgrade, were hurt two days ago when thunder striked them while they were having sex by the riverside in Ada Ciganlija, part of Belgrade known as the biggest and most visited picnic area. They were under the willow three during the storm.

According to newspapers, they were transported to Emergency Hospital, in totaly naked and pretty roasted condition. Soon, Bojan was let to go home, and Mirjana was kept in Hospital for treatment. The Doctor alleged Mirjana's life is out of danger and she is resting in intensive care: „She is concious, she can eat and communicate by now. Mirjana have got really bad hurts form the thunder, but we expect her to get well soon! For the moment, she is not allowed to have visitors, but her family and friends will soon have the opportunity to visit her”, said doctor in charge.
But..The ourageous scandal happened shortly after lovers got to the hospital.
Some young gentleman entered and asked about Mrijana's health condition, saying he was her husband. Nurses told him where Mirjana is allocated, and then asked if he can take care about her clothes. Among her female items, he found some items belonging to the oppostite sex! He asked and was told the items are possesion of Mirjana's husband. Then he cried in shock: BUT I AM HER HUSBAND! It was obvious they had to tell him the truth: Mirjana was hurt during the sex she had with her co-worker.
According to well-informed source, man was less hurt because he had a role of a conductor. Woman lied down on the grass, and man was on his knees when thunder striked. It seems the electricity passed through his body only to hit in his naked co-worker. Man was more fortunate to have just few simple wounds, but his mistres had, apparently, really bad luck.

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